All Singaporeans have attitude – some are easy to bear with, some are difficult. Regardless of the attitude of the people you meet, it is important that you know how to handle them because it can make you successful at the end of the day. It is helpful that you have this kind of emotional intelligence so you can deal with people especially those that are toxic or difficult.

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Here’s how you should handle difficult people:

  1. Establishing boundaries. At the beginning, smart people already know that they cannot please everybody. You can start with that. Once you accept that, you will not sell yourself short. You will instead rise above amidst the chaos and establish some distance or boundaries with difficult people.

 

  1. Focusing on solutions. You should not waste your time trying to understand difficult people and changing them. Instead of focusing on them, why not focus on the problems and make actions. It will better the odds. There is no point listening to their negativity.

 

  1. Being self-aware. When you are aware of your weaknesses and strengths, you have better chances of outsmarting difficult people. When you are met with different stress every day, by knowing your weaknesses and strengths, you do not allow difficult people to influence your actions.

 

  1. Learning from the situation. Yes you can forgive but you cannot forget because it served as your lesson learned. All these years, you have learned that experience is the best teacher. You can protect yourself from the claws of negative or difficult people by remembering the lessons you learned in life.

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  1. Tuning out negativity. There is no surprise that difficult people always speak of negativity and criticism. You should be wise enough not to listen to them because chances are they are just making things a lot messier. You should not listen or even engage in negativity and criticism talks.

 

  1. Saving energy. Difficult people will stir disagreement and fight. If you are involved, you will be damaged. The best way is to save all your energy for the next day. Do not respond to all negative things you hear.

 

  1. Focusing on the good things. Smart people simply want to be happy and pray to stay that way for a long time. If you derive your joys within rather than the external forces, brighter days will come. However if you need other people to make you feel happy, that is the time that you need to get away.

 

  1. Resting when necessary. If you get enough rest, nothing can break you. Sleeping is important because it recharges your brains and emotions.

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There are workplaces in Singapore and even around the world that are indeed too toxic too handle. A toxic place composed of toxic people to work with will not result into a healthy working relationship. In order to identify if your workplace belongs to this category, check out the list below:

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  1. Major communication problems. Communication is very important in an office. It may be in different modes relayed from bottom to top or vice versa. Either way, communication applied should be effective and constant. Lack of proper communication and connection among employees can create problems and may result into conflict and misinterpretation. If you do not want difficulties to arise in your workplace, make communication open all the time.

 

  1. Inconsistency in following policies. You can’t force some employees to really follow office policies. That’s the problem. A workplace becomes very toxic if all the people working in it do not know how to follow simple rules and regulations. Usually even the tiniest details are neglected, what more on the general and more important policies? If employees are valued enough and are disciplined accordingly, then problems will not be incurred.

 

  1. Narcissistic leaders. There are different types of leaders. Narcissistic leaders are toxic to work with because they would not listen to your suggestions and contributions. They usually believe that they are the only ones who could solve problems, make creative ideas, and so on. As much as possible, it would be healthier for you to not argue with these types of leaders or better yet you and other employees can file an intervention regarding the said superior.

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  1. Seething disgruntlement. One way or another we all experience dissatisfaction with our jobs. Some employees are much more vocal and they often reflect their unhappiness with the level of commitment and work they put in a project or assignment. Unvalued and unhappy employees result into low performance. These people can really be toxic to work with especially if you end up doing their job for them on top of your own responsibilities.

 

  1. Physical and emotional health effects. If your workplace creates that unhealthy and unhappy atmosphere, you might want to evaluate if you’d still want to stay or leave. Don’t put yourself in a situation or don’t strain yourself physically and emotionally by staying in a workplace that you know doesn’t give you the fulfillment and happiness you deserve. If you seldom get sick or if you consistently experience stress and depression, maybe it’s time to find a new job or workplace that could make you feel otherwise.

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How long has that resignation letter been sitting in your drawer? Have you ever imagined doing a different job or having a more interesting career? All of us want to be in a job that’s fulfilling, but very few dare to take the leap. If you’re seeking for a little push to finally tender your resignation, here are four reasons to fire you up.

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  1. Your Efforts Are No Longer Working Out

You will know it’s time to quit when you have put so much effort on your duties, but still see no improvement. Once you have decided to quit, remember that you are in charge of how to deliver that message to your employer and to the people who deserve to know about it. Family and friends may respond with concerns, but it is your job to come up with plans for your next step.

  1. You Don’t See a Good Future With It

Every job should lead to something: a promotion, an opportunity to learn new things, take on additional responsibilities or tackle new challenges. The future should show some potential to be different from today. Your boss should be able to help you and your co-workers to improve your future, even if—and especially if—that means you will eventually move to a bigger and better opportunity.

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  1. It Improves Your Quality of Life

Staying at a job that you no longer find fulfilling can leave you emotionally drained, but walking away from the unhappiness and stress can significantly improve your well-being. According to science, stress and tensions can exacerbate or trigger heart attacks and increase the risk of other diseases. While it’s common to experience financial stress after quitting a job, finding one that you know you love will eventually provide long-term positive effects.

  1. You Feel Like You Don’t Have Purpose

Everyone wants to feel like a part of something significant. Every person likes to feel that they have impact not just on the productivity, but also in other people’s lives. Life is too short to spend on nothing important. It’s a tormenting to go home every single day feeling overworked, but have not accomplished anything meaningful.

Money won’t buy everything—but if you have to work for it, don’t you want your work to pay off more than just the monetary equivalent it provides? Do not let other people determine your future. Go out and find your worth. You will be surprised how financially stable you will become when you find a job that you truly love.

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Things happen here in Singapore really fast. If we maintain our usual pace, we will surely be left behind. With this, it is important that we work faster to cope up with our workloads. Being fast doesn’t mean sacrificing quality. We are expected to deliver timely at the same time in good quality. This is really challenging but if we master this art, we will not have problems.

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So, how do we double our speed but keep the quality? This is easy for some Singaporeans who are used to the hustle but for those who are not, this is their time to know the secrets on how to work faster but maintain the quality at the same time. Here are some secrets:

  • Use timers: Not all people know about the Parkinson’s Law. This Law states that our work enlarges so it can fill the time allocated for it. For example, if have a task and the time is open ended, it will take more time before we complete it. On the other hand, if we set a specific time to accomplish a task, we will work faster to beat the time. This is where the timers come into the picture. We have to use timers so we can track our progress and productivity.

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  • Think our day ends at 11am: We have to think that our day will end at 11am. This is particularly effective if we want to go home on time. The 11am technique will force us to take action immediately and prioritize things that really count. To make this work, we have to write a list first and think about important things.
  • Work at home: Working at home is really a bummer but we can look this differently. We can work at home but only for an hour each day. For example, an hour before going to work, we should have quality thinking time and plan our day. This can make a difference at the end of the day.
  • Unimportant tasks within ten: Sometimes, the problem is we do not know how to prioritize things. We have to know that there are far less important things and it pays that we identify it. If we have to do it every day, we should allot at least ten minutes.

With this, we can work faster. We have to observe our pace first. If we truly observed some progress, then this is worth pursuing and sharing to our colleagues who might have the same problem. These secrets can help us achieve high level of effectiveness. No matter what other people say, we should know that we are capable of achieving high level of effectiveness.

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